Taking kindness as a social etiquette towards others is our greatest misunderstanding; it is actually a lifeline for ourselves.

I used to wonder, why am I always the unlucky one? Later, I realized that what is called the abyss is merely fate's way of saying my capacity is too small to hold the impending blessings, forcing my perspective to expand. In this process, seeking outward is a technique; no matter how many communication skills I learn, if my heart remains unresolved, the words I speak will be thorny.

Seeking inward is the way.

No longer staying up all night regretting having said the wrong thing, no longer completely denying myself because of a single setback. Even if I mess up the project, my first reaction is not to scold myself for being stupid, but to go downstairs and buy a cup of hot tea to comfort that panicking child.

Putting down the knife pointing at myself is the first step for the wound to start healing.